Some people “advise” that if your spouse has decided on a divorce, there is nothing you can do to save a marriage. It will merely depend upon your spouse’s mind about you and the marriage – nothing you can do will affect that. Well, I am here today to say “Nonsense!” to all that.The fate of your marriage is in your hands only and you can guide it to wherever you wish. However, keep in mind that this is a double edged sword; which means that while if you do the right things you will definitely save your marriage, but if you do the wrong ones you will end up losing your marriage.So, we have to be able to tell the good things from the bad ones when you want to fix a marriage.Unfortunately, the instinctive reactions of a person to such a situation is the wrong thing to do. When you think your marriage is ending, you go desperate and start to apologize and beg to your spouse, in search of a “quick fix” that will repair every damage and solve every problem. The problem is, your marriage problems appeared in the course of your marriage, not overnight. And they will not vanish overnight.Which brings us to the right thing to do. The right thing to do is to go AGAINST your emotions. Do not allow them to overwhelm you – then they will leave you no choice but to kneel and beg for forgiveness from your spouse. The right thing that I did was to forego my emotions and what I felt should be done as I realized that my instincts were guiding me the wrong way; and ask for unbiased outside advice.
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